“…to slut shame a woman is to say some important things we need to think about. First: For a woman to be shamed by loving a man, men must by definition be unworthy of that love, for if we were worthy of the love she had shared with us, neither one of us would be lessened by it.”
Source: Decoding Slut | mainer74
Excellent meta analysis of slut shaming and rape culture. READ READ READ. Also for those who need trigger warnings, rape is mentioned but not in any detail to any specific act; it’s in the context of rape culture itself.
Emotional labor is a waitress smiling and laughing even when a customer is rude. Emotional labor is a retail clerk greeting everyone who walks in with a smile, no matter how she actually feels. Emotional labor is a nurse aide acting pleasant even under deeply unpleasant conditions. Emotional labor is the work of acting like you feel a certain way because the boss and customers demand it. And emotional labor, above all, is “women’s work.”
Women who’ve survived abuse often have people asking us why we put up with it, why we stayed even after it became “really” bad. There’s plenty of answers – lack of financial resources, absence of crucial support networks, nowhere to leave to – but I rarely hear the biggest reason of all. Satisfying other people’s desires without expecting reciprocation is what women do; under patriarchy, that’s what “women’s work” means.
Much of the emotional labor required of pink collar workers involves smiling and apologizing at people targeting you with abusive behaviors. Tell an angry, verbally-violent customer, “don’t talk to me like that. I deserve basic respect,” and you’ll likely get fired. Submitting to an abusive partner or family member involves precisely the same work, and it’s work forced on most of us by the power structure of capitalism. The requirements of paid pink-collar work reinforce abusive dynamics at home, while the emotional conditioning of unpaid abuse makes women better at putting up with it on the job.
Capitalism runs on the abuse of women.
Source: Giving Power, Taking Power: Emotional Labor, Gender, and Abuse – GODS & RADICALS
Drop that mic, Dagulf!
The longer that I’ve been involved in modern Heathenry, the more I’ve noticed that many people who have worked this religion for a long time have ended up doing one of two things: either converting to a new religion entirely, or exploring other traditions on the side (often claiming that they were sent to X tradition by the Norse gods themselves). The other day I found a video on Youtube made by a man who…
Source: What is Heathenry Missing?
Pop culture pagan shenanigans: ongoing and currently getting chocolate in my peanut butter and peanut butter in my chocolate. I may write about this coherently at some point, BUT IT IS NOT THIS DAY. /AraGwydion
Aw shit, he’s hot. When did *that* become an invocation?